Our parents are getting older, we can see that daily help would be useful to them. The only thing is, they turn their heads as soon as we broach the subject. How to persuade them to accept it?
Use the right words to talk to your loved one
Aging is not an illness, it is a period of life that requires certain adjustments in daily life, but above all an acceptance of change. This requires work on oneself, not always easy to do, but which in any case allows an opening on this new stage of life. We have never lived this long and most people still want to live in their homes. For us relatives, this quickly becomes a source of anxiety, as we fear for their safety. The secret to getting them to accept the situation is choosing the right words. The person who is advancing in age remains an adult and does not in any way transform into an “object of care”. It is therefore important to always extract the positive by emphasizing what it can do and not what can no longer be done on a daily basis. It is simply applying the precepts of benevolent speech. It is important to recognize successes while showing the trust you have in your loved one. This will enable him to better cope with any difficulties.
How to convince those close to you to accept help?
You may have already noticed it when talking to your parents, but often they listen more easily to a friend, a neighbour or a person in their medical circle than their children! This applies to home help or housing equipment. They will hear that it is time to equip themselves with a remote assistance system when their neighbour Mathilde praises its advantages, but will refuse to listen to you when you mention such a device. The reason is very simple: they feel diminished and especially do not want to show it to you. This is perfectly understandable, and on your side, it’s hard to accept that your parents are becoming more vulnerable. To convince them, you have to be patient and not hesitate to use love and humour. Make them understand that even though they are more fragile, they are no less valuable, they are still the same individuals from whom we still have a lot to learn. The roles are not reversed, they complement each other. All of this makes us rediscover the world from a new angle.